I'm A Little Pissed!

Magical Night On The Thames

I have agonized over this post for a couple of days now. I have promised a friend not to reveal the details of an event that was quite disturbing to me yet I cannot help but to write about the subject. The subject being internalized homophobia and violence. It is an all too common affliction that creates in the person so afflicted the capacity to harm oneself or others. All of us at one time or another in our struggle to accept ourselves as homosexual have had to overcome the fear of discovery by ones friends and family. We have also had to learn how to not hate that which we are in order become the persons who we are today. For some that lesson is not learned soon enough resulting in an overwhelming feeling of self loathing that manifests itself in many ways. Some times it is the merciless persecution of others in whom we see the "weakness" we see in ourselves. Many times this persecution is in the form of verbal abuse. We have all been there and done that either as a giver or receiver of such abuse. Many times the most virulent abusers are those fighting so hard to reject the reality of who they are in order to cover it up so no one will suspect or discover them. The real problem comes when those so consumed with their hatred for themselves try to do harm to themselves or worse, harm to another in the transference of that self hatred onto another person. This usually occurs when the physical need for the release of sexual tension drives the person so afflicted to seek that release in a setting out of the public eye. This is what happened to my friend. At a recent social event my friend was approached repeatedly by someone who thought themselves to be all that and a bag of chips. This person was a pretty package with what turned out to be the personality of a slug. After repeatedly rejecting the advances of this person, my friend found himself entrapped in close quarters with this person. After again refusing his advances this person hurled verbal abuse at my friend then proceeded to beat my friend because he refused to perform oral sex on said person. My friend was on the verge of giving up the oral sex just so the beating would stop when another friend came to his rescue, pulling the perpetrator off of my friend and proceeding to return the beating to the original attacker. I am proud of my friend for refusing to to give in to his attacker and am glad his rescuer was there to prevent him from being hurt more than he already was. My friends attacker felt entitled to receive that which he demanded and became enraged at my friends refusal resulting in a brutal beating that could have turned out much worse if his rescuer had not come upon the scene. Too many times there is no one to rescue the person being attacked resulting in severe injury and sometimes even death. This is what the closet does to those who refuse to open the door and step into the light. Until such time when parents, teachers and other authority figures promote acceptance of homosexuality there will continue to be persons who will have the fear of themselves manifest itself in these acts of violence either to themselves or others. Many of us have lost friends to suicide because they could not accept themselves or were so mercilessly abused they could not bear to live with that abuse. We have all read the stories of the brutal beatings and deaths that have resulted from that fear being manifested in violence. The time has come to stop this cycle of violence. Too many lives have been sacrificed on the alter of fear that permeates not only this country but the world at large. In many places this fear and the hatred it engenders is preached from the pulpit giving tacit approval to the resulting violence. It is time for love and acceptance to be taught in our homes, schools and churches instead of fear and hatred. Isn't it about time we began to abide by the first commandment "love one another as I have loved you"? Let us not offer even one more sacrifice on the alter of fear. Do all you can to erase the hate and support those whose efforts work towards the goal of acceptance of all persons of whatever stripe or persuasion. Let's make this a better world for all of us starting right now.

I do have the latest Holly Oaks adventures posted just below along with today's eye candy selections. Until next time as always, Enjoy!